You can choose.

There is something incredibly powerful about deciding not to be defined by your trauma. It’s one of the biggest secrets that I wish more people knew about.

That…you can choose.

You can decline the identity / personality that trauma gave you and choose something else. You can choose even before you’ve fully processed the past. You can choose even before you fully understand what happened. You can choose to not be defined by what happened even before you have fully healed from it or “alchemized” it all. You can choose who you are and who you get to be regardless of the severity of the circumstance.

It may be harder to find your choice in some situations more than others, but you always have it. It’s always there. You can always choose.

And I wish more people knew.

I wish more people knew that this isn’t a bypass. This isn’t you glossing over what happened. It is the highest act of creative agency and power to remember your own soul and stay close to your thread of truth and presence.

Someone told me this once when I needed to hear it the most. And its the only reason I was able to leave the cult I grew up in and stay alive and in my body in my seasons of crisis and su*c*dal ideation post-cult life.

In those seasons, I thought that my only choice was to either live with the pain of what happened or close this incarnation and end my life. Especially after watching my brother *not* fully survive his post-cult life integration and find his way into compounding spiritual crises that left him with a manic bipolar and schizophrenic diagnosis, disabled from being able to fully live his life and be a father to his newborn at 30.

Someone was brave enough with me to tell me over and over and over again that I could choose. I could choose who I become. I could choose my life path. I could choose to remember. I could choose to wake up in my own dream.

And to be honest? For me, it wasn’t years of picking at my wounds or talk therapy that gave me the capacity to wake up out of the old story. It was always choice, and the constant and sometimes not-gentle reminders of my choice that woke me and brought me back to my voice.

Choice.

You have choice.

You can wake up in the dream of your life and choose that you’re worthy of a viable, sustainable and progressive wage. You can choose to no longer play a role that you *thought* you had to play. You can choose to no longer be a martyr. You can choose to stop the constant self-silencing and self-sacrifice.

You can decide that your voice is powerful and that you belong. You can decide to create meaning out of your life. That you are not stuck. Shame and trauma are not that powerful.

You can choose to rewrite the narrative of your life.

To be honest, it feels risky sharing this with you because our world has built entire industries out of keeping people stuck in the idea that they are broken and that the burden of change and choice will be too great to bear. There are so many people in this world who will tip toe over this topic because at some level, they are also trapped in their own stories of small self-belief. At some level, they also feel trapped.

They will affirm whatever story you hold about being trapped behind the shattered glass of your histories and being held captive by a memory or the past because they are afraid of bypassing and erasing what happened.

But choosing doesn’t erase what happened.

Choosing gives you your power back.

This power of choice and waking up in our own dream is exactly what I guide you through in Weavers through integrative ecosomatics and subconscious re-patterning to anchor this process in the body.

Weavers is for you if you want to…

• Increase in Confidence and Magnetism — Amplify your natural capacity to attract opportunities, people, and abundance to your field.

• Increase Your Income or Revenue — Unlock substantial growth and financial resources. Expand your capacity to both receive and hold more wealth.

• Expand your Relational Capacity — Deepen your capacity to attract truly respectful, reciprocal, whole, and fulfilling relationships and emotional connections.

Learn more about Weavers I and join us here.

Also, if you want to deepen this conversation of choice and bring it into your relationship with how you build, consider joining us next Tuesday, April 29th for The Second House, where the power of “choice” will be a steady theme in our 2-hour workshop focused specifically on receiving. The Second House is for you if you are a service-based creative entrepreneur who remembering your true value, charge more for your work, and get paid the rates You deserve.

Learn more about the Second House and join us here.

With care,

Daje Aloh